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Supporting Each Other…

Why supporting each other is important…

Sometimes we get so caught up in being busy that it’s easy to miss what else is going on around us.

We miss the fact that a fellow working mum is struggling, or could really do with a shoulder to cry on, or just a simple cup of coffee.

And yet there are times, and will no doubt be times in the future when we would all like to feel that we have that support.

It’s one of the main reasons that I started The Working Mum Association in the first place; so that working mums everywhere have a place that they can find inspiration, support and encouragement. In short, now that you have found us, you will never be alone.

And it doesn’t matter what stage of the journey you are at. Each one presents itself with its own unique challenges. So whether you’re a mum just returning to work from maternity leave, or your children are in their teens, please look out for your fellow working mums. Support and help them where you can, and you will find that support and help will come back ten-fold.

Together, we can build an amazing community of like-minded women because together, we truly can become unstoppable.

Reasons…

Sometimes I really have to question why things are working out the way that they are. I just don’t understand if it feels as if I’ve hit a bit of a brick wall with everything.

But taking a bit of time out to reflect and then try and get clarity on any given situation, really helps.

I didn’t need to be up this morning as early as I have been. I could have stayed in bed for a bit longer, rested a bit more, and begun my day in a completely different way.

But there are a couple of things that I’m unsure of. I don’t understand why I have seem to have blocks around them and so I got up earlier, sat down and wrote out how I was feeling.

I then found lots of lovely inspiring quotes for us this week and made them into graphics. Because there’s nothing that a bit of encouragement, support and inspiration can’t solve.

And as I was doing all of this, it made me realise that it’s ok that a couple of things that I thought were coming my way now haven’t. Because that’s what was meant to be.

So if you’re facing adversity or are thinking why not me about something this morning, know this. Something far better is about to come your way. Have faith that you will get to where you’re meant to be in the end, even if it takes you a while to get there.

Making the Most of Everything…

Making the most of everything…

In the UK at the moment it’s a Bank Holiday as we mark Easter – and I always think that having a few days away from work and actually not working can really help to put everything into perspective.

For instance, yesterday we spent the day together with some friends at a theme park, just enjoying each other’s company and today will be spent just chilling and if we’re able to, going for a walk in the country, in between the rain showers.

It’s moments like these – the memory making moments that are so important and equally precious.

So whatever you are up to on this Monday and wherever in the world you are, here’s to taking just a few minutes out of your day to appreciate all that you do have, and to building those special memories… x

Beating the Overwhelm…

Sometimes things can feel as if they’re getting too much. I know that I certainly feel this way at the moment but on my way into work this morning I made a conscious decision and I hope that it will in somehow help you if you’re reading this now.

I started to run through a list of everything that I’m grateful for.

My gorgeous little boy, hubby, the fact that we will be going on a holiday of a lifetime soon, all of these amazing things.

And yes I am stressed at the moment. There is a lot going on all at once and demands are being placed on me, which I feel to a certain extent are unfair.

But by refocusing on the good things, the positive things, it has helped to calm me, to re-centre my focus and it will mean that I’m more productive, more present for those I love and more importantly am more in tune with myself in terms of what I need.

Give it a go – it works for me, and I really hope that it works for you.

The sun is shining, warm weather is around the corner. Today is going to be your day. Sending lots of positive thoughts your way… x

Ps Come over and join us in the Working Mum Association Group we’d love to have you with us

Celebrate. Don’t Compete…

Why we should celebrate other women rather than compare or compete…

Today is International Women’s Day and it’s a perfect opportunity for us to celebrate everything that we have and continue to achieve.

But rather than comparing or competing with each other, it’s a chance for us to stand united and proud with how far we have come.

As working mums it comes as second nature to look after everyone else’s needs before our own.

But by supporting, encouraging and inspiring each other every step of the way – together we can become a true force to be reckoned with.

A community in spirit, living in hope whilst knowing that just around the corner amazing things are going to happen to each and every one of us.

So here’s to each and every one of you ladies who works hard to get to where she is, and deserves the recognition for doing so.

Today is a day to celebrate, and to pat each other on the back.

Because we’re juggling superstars every single day – and step by step, no matter how hard it may seem, we’re nailing it.

Staying Positive…

Sometimes it’s really hard to stay positive when it feels like everything is working against you. But in those moments where you’re about to say why me, have you ever tried to look at your situation in a completely different way?

So the parking ticket that you just received, instead of it being a source of major irritation, is it a message that you just need to slow down a bit and think more about your actions. Or that person who just barged past you to get onto the train, yes it was rude, but surely that’s more a reflection about them as a person rather than how you should allow it to then affect the rest of your day.

Are you starting to see where I’m going with this?

The thing is, as soon as I started re-framing situations, which I previously would have seen as negative. Everything began to shift and change for me.

I’m not saying I’m a saint, far from it, but I try whenever I can to think of the positive in any situation and it has genuinely made everything feel so much better.

Smiling more has had a huge impact too – as often it impacts on those around you too. A smile is infectious, so maybe on this Monday – why don’t you try and spread some happiness and positivity.

It would be great to hear how you get on with this… x

Space and Permission…

Giving yourself space and permission…

I don’t know about you but sometimes being a mum, let alone one that works, can feel like it’s all consuming.

It’s hard when a little person is so reliant on you for their every need. I’m sure it gets easier as they get older, although I’m sure that their needs just change over time.

But in amongst everything associated with being a mum, and a busy working mum at that, don’t forget to give yourself a chance. Moments to yourself, that you carve out in any given day, that are just for you.

Because by doing this, you are remembering who you are. Who you used to be and what makes you happy.

I must have read it several times over how a happy mum equals a happy family.

And giving yourself permission to think about what you really want from your life it’s the first step in making you and those you love the most, truly happy.

Taking that step to think about what your life could look like and then knowing that you really can make it happen, means that you are on the initial stages of an incredibly exciting journey.

It’s so easy to sleepwalk through week after week, attending meeting after meeting, and then wondering where the time has gone.

So please if you do one thing this week, take half an hour out on your journey to or from work, or when you’re able to just sit and write it down. What do you want from life?

I did this back in 2015 and it was a real turning point for me.

It’s Not Always Plain Sailing…

Sometimes it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by a situation or by something that is going on.

And when you’re up close and immersed in it, it’s hard to see the wood for the trees.

I’ve had quite a few days like this recently where I’ve been working on things and it feels as if I’m wading through treacle.

The other day, after a particularly busy and frustrating few hours sat in front of my computer, I took myself outside and even though it was bitterly cold and the wind was doing its utmost to blow me over, I went for a walk.

Because that walk gave me a sense of perspective and distance and time to think more clearly about everything.

And in that ten minutes, I was able to breathe again and just appreciate the world around me once more; the birds singing in the trees and the fact that I was able to actually walk somewhere.

The fact that I have my health right now didn’t go unnoticed, nor did the fact that since the start of the year, I have finally started making great strides in the direction I need to be heading.

Wedding photography bookings are coming in, and since January I have secured six more clients; something I previously thought wasn’t going to be possible. But maybe for once I have been getting out of my own way and not allowing myself to hold me back.

And with that, has come a new found belief in myself and what I’m able to achieve.

And with that walk and sense of perspective, I came up with a way of doing things slightly differently. The hours of staring at a screen, and wading through proverbial treacle are no longer an issue. I found a solution and have made a start to implement it.

So I guess my message for you on this chilly Monday morning is that no, it’s not always plain sailing especially for us working mums, but if you dig deep, you will find the solution.

And maybe it’s something that’s been staring you in the face for a long time, but you just didn’t want to admit it… x

Positive Surroundings…

As we round off another working week, I’ve been reminded yet again about the importance to surround yourself with like-minded people.

I’ve always been an optimist and see the glass as half full. But if you have people around you constantly looking at that proverbial glass as if it’s always empty, you are already facing a bit of a struggle.

I’m fortunate enough to be a member of a few online communities, which I’m glad to say are wholly positive. Lots of connections are being made with other like-minded women. Some of them mums, the majority of them all striving to make a better life for themselves and their nearest and dearest.

Sometimes this journey can be tough. But as I have said before, how you look at things can make a massive difference to your whole experience.

If you view the world as gloomy like Eyeore then it will no doubt feel this way. However, if you think of it like a balloon bobbing along in the breeze, it will start to make you feel as uplifted too.

I just wanted to share this with you today, because sometimes it’s hard if you have people in your life who don’t quite get where you’re coming from, or why you find some days harder than others as a working mum.

Hopefully through the Working Mum Association and our lovely Facebook group, which is growing rapidly, you will find a sense of community. And you will be able to make connections with like-minded mums who value what you have to say, and will help lift you up when everything feels like it’s too much.

Thank you for reading this and for being part of this amazing movement for us to support, encourage and inspire each other on our journeys as working mums.

There’s No Such Word As Impossible

One step at a time…

It’s often the case that we can procrastinate and not get anything done, held back by fear or those around us who say, “Why would you want to do that?”

But if you allow your life to be governed by what if’s then you will never be able to move forward at all.

When I first put a line in the sand and said that I was going to be a children’s author, there were some people who at the time scoffed and said “Yeah, right!”

Needless to say I’m no longer in touch with those people, because why would I want to surround myself with negativity or with people who don’t believe in me?

Why would you want to have those messages going round and round in your head.

This is one of my favourite quotes – it’s from Audrey Hepburn and looks at possibilities, discounting negativity.

Because if you are to get to where you want to be right now – it requires you to start taking action. To move forward, one step at a time.

When I first returned to work after having J, everything was misaligned and I wasn’t where I wanted to be at all. I missed him terribly, and there was no balance.

I’m not saying that everything is perfect now, as it’s far from it – but I’m getting there – one book, one wedding, one more client at a time. And I’m building the life that I believe I deserve.

And I really hope that you get to do the same too. That if you have an idea, rather than allowing those around you to knock it down – that you take the first few steps to start making it your reality. Who knows where you could be in a few months or a year from now.

Isn’t it better to try and find out, rather than wondering what if?