Bethan Davies is a Wedding Planner and Business Coach helping working mums start and scale their own successful ventures. She combines working in her two businesses with occasional shifts at the hospital where she used to work as a Radiographer. That was all before she became mum to her now 18-month-old daughter Aria Rose.
Tell us a bit about you as a mum…
I am mum to my 18-month-old daughter, Aria Rose. Before having my little girl, I worked in a hospital as a full-time qualified Radiographer and had no intention whatsoever of doing anything else. I had worked so hard to get this professional career, I had my fair share of trouble thrown my way. But, instead of carrying on down that rocky road to destruction I swore to myself I would make a better future for myself, and I did. I had the perfect career, husband, daughter, home….
Then I started to realise my life wasn’t as perfect as I thought. I was so upset about going back to work after maternity leave ended. I was barely seeing my baby. I remember having a picture sent to me of Aria’s first time on a swing, I burst into tears! I wanted so badly to be there with her. I realised I wanted more freedom, I didn’t want to miss out on birthdays, Christmases and all those special occasions with her, so I made it happen.
I now have two successful businesses and I work the odd shift here and there at the hospital, but it’s now on my terms. I get to spend all the time I want with my daughter. I work mainly from home and can take my work with me anywhere in the world. Everything I do is for my daughter, because I want her to have everything from life, all the nice things and more importantly…me!
Tell us about your current job…
The first business I set up was as a Wedding Planner. I love it and am so passionate about creating spectacular memories for my clients. Then I found myself helping so many others with their business, so I became qualified in coaching and that’s how my second business was born. I coach like-minded working mums how to follow their passions and make a successful business or businesses from them. I focus on time management, mindset and strategy within my coaching. I’m so passionate about both of my businesses. I want other women to see that being a mum shouldn’t stop them from chasing their dreams, it should encourage them!
How easy have you found being a working mum?
As I briefly touched on, I found it extremely difficult being a working mum when I was still full-time at the hospital. It crushed my heart every time I left the house and left my baby girl. I could never have carried on with that lifestyle, missing out on so much of her growing up. Now, I love being a working mum, because I can afford to give her all the things she deserves and more importantly I get to work from anywhere with my ‘laptop lifestyle’ so I spend all the time I want with my daughter.
How have you found trying to balance being a mum with your current role?
I have completely mastered my time management and would even go so far as to say I have a perfect balance. I time block each week. I know what I’m doing every minute of every day. I schedule in time for work, play, prepping meals, eating meals and some me time too.
What has kept you going throughout your journey so far?
Before my daughter, before my husband, before my professional career at the hospital, I honestly couldn’t tell you what kept me going! I dealt with a lot, from a young age and one thing followed after the other again and again. Before I knew it my life was spiralling out of control fast. I think for me, it took hitting rock bottom to realise my life was worth so much more. That was a turning point for me, that was when I began to work hard to change my life around.
I found that I was content for a little while, but as soon as I had my daughter things really started to move forward. I have this burning desire for so much more! I think there will always be this fire inside of me to keep growing and keep pushing myself further and that’s all down to my daughter Aria. I want to be the best mum and role model for her. Someone for her to look up to and influence her. I want her to chase after the best life for herself. My daughter and husband are always my motivators now. Whenever I have a bad day, I look at them and remember what life is all about.
What advice would you offer anyone who is about to return to work after having a child?
My advice would be to always think of your family and remember you’re doing it for them, to give them the best life you can. Always go with your heart, and if you’re not happy, then do something about it. The world is such a big place with so much to offer, there’s something out there for everyone, you just have to chase after it and make it happen. If you’re unhappy in your job, then start looking towards doing something else with your life, and think of your job as a stepping stone; something to fund your journey on to something bigger and better.
What’s the best piece of advice someone gave you about combining motherhood with a job?
It was from one of the ladies I work with at the hospital. I was talking to her about feeling guilty for being away from my daughter by working so much and covering shifts when they were short staffed. And she said, “You need to really think about your priorities. Do you live to work or do you work to live?” It hit me so hard! I had my priorities and thoughts completely wrong. I was so loyal to that career and felt that it was my duty to step in. My daughter is my main responsibility, she is who I am loyal to, no job in the world should come before her, and it certainly doesn’t anymore!
Anything else you would like our members to know about you?
Just know that you are not alone, we are all in this together and if ever you feel like things aren’t what they should be, then do something about it. You are a strong woman, you brought a child into this world after all, maybe more than one and you juggle motherhood with work and probably a million other things too. If you can do that, you can do anything! You’re a superwoman.
For more information about Bethan – visit her two businesses below:
Coaching by Beth
Juliet Rose Weddings