Jade Anne is a working mum on a mission. Not only does she work four days a week, but she also has a business called The Female Intuition to help women overcome anxiety. And when she’s not doing that, she’s looking after her two daughters.
Tell us a bit about you as a mum…
I am a single parent to two beautiful little girls who are aged three and six. I live for my time with my girls and they are the reason I work so hard because I want to be able to give them life experiences and travel the world. We are going to Thailand next year! Before I had my children I was a teacher so education is really important to me and we spend a lot of time together learning new things by visiting museums and libraries. I try to be a fun mum so I have a really close bond with my girls as the three of us have lots of laughter and giggles together. But even from the age they are now I’m making sure they know how loved they are and how we can talk about anything. I love the strong bond we have and that makes it easier when I have to leave them and go to work! It hasn’t always been this easy as I suffered from postnatal depression after giving birth to my first and that was a real struggle, but I came out on the other side. So for anyone reading this who is going through that now, it will get easier. Please don’t be afraid to get help and support it is something so many of us go through!
Tell us about your current job…
I currently have two jobs, I work 32 hours a week in a marketing role for an education company. It’s great because it involves such a range of tasks from designing to copy writing and coming up with campaigns. Sometimes it involves having to travel and stay in different parts of the country and that can be hard, but since I had my second child this has significantly reduced, thankfully! I also have my own business, which is providing anxiety transformations with women. This is where my passion lies as I enjoy working with women and being able to share my own experiences and help them change their lives is so inspiring! So I am juggling a full time job, children and trying to build my business up!
How easy have you found being a working mum?
I think being a mum is the best job in the world but trying to mix parenthood and working can be tricky at first. I think like a lot of working mums there is definitely time that I suffer with guilt as I’m not able to do the school run like the other mums. I have had my eldest say things to me like ‘Why can’t you pick me up?’ and that definitely makes me feel guilty, but I have to remind myself I am doing it to be a good role model and provide for them. I found talking to my Manager about how I was feeling helped, as work try to be flexible so I can attend school assemblies and other important events.
How have you found trying to balance being a mum with your current role?
It can certainly be challenging at times, but I think you find strategies that make it a lot easier over time. Leaving for work early and getting home from work late and then having to carry on with a bedtime routine can be pretty tiring. At first I found it difficult but now I have found a routine that helps us all to make the most of the time we do have and get things done quickly and efficiently! For example brushing teeth can take a long time but then if you implement a simple sand timer it is amazing how much quicker children can be and then that means there is more time for a cuddle in bed with a story!
What has kept you going throughout your journey so far?
I have the most supportive parents and I don’t think I could have done this without them. So rather than having to do everything myself they are able to help with pick ups and organising the children when I run late.
The most important thing that helped my mindset was talking to other women who I work with who were in similar positions. When I did this, I didn’t feel so bad being away from my girls and it reminded me why I was doing this when I had a bad day!
What advice would you offer anyone who is about to return to work after having a child?
Have a plan A and B and possibly C. If you think about the logistics of what needs doing and how long everything takes you can make the most of the time you do have with your children. It can be hard being away from them for a long period of time so those moments you do have you don’t want to waste! Time-block dinner time, bath time, relaxation time and story time. Anything you want to fit in around work gets time-blocked and then it helps you to stick to it!
What’s the best piece of advice someone gave you about combining motherhood with a job?
Don’t think everyone expects you to do everything! I only took two months maternity and six weeks holiday with my second child because I was a single parent and I just couldn’t afford to be at home. I remember going back to work and pushing myself hard to be able to do everything all the time for everyone in my life. Thing is that just leads to burn out and when you have little people to look after you have to look after yourself first! So make sure you find time for self-care and don’t second guess what others expect from you, people are more understanding then you think!
Anything else you would like our members to know about you?
As a working mum whatever you are feeling then I want to reassure you I have probably felt like that too and you are not alone. It can be a difficult journey but just remember you are doing it for the right reasons and your children will grow up to be proud of you for being such a great role model!
If you would like to find out more about how I might be able to help you if you’re struggling with your mindset or anxiety, my new website has just launched and can be found HERE