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Never Giving Up…

Never giving up…

One of the biggest and most important things that my mum instilled in me, was never to give up.

It’s stood me in good stead over the years, even when the going has been tough and I’ve questioned whether I could do what I started out to do.

Long before J even entered our lives, I knew that I wanted a child; I had too much love to give for it to not be invested in a little person who could be nurtured and guided. But life has a way of throwing you curve balls and he took at least three years to arrive.

During that time there was plenty of despair, tears and sadness, but above all else an unswerving belief that one day that little person would arrive. And I never gave up even when I was told it just wasn’t possible. Even when against the odds and a severe case of tokophobia later, we then went through a further week of him being in intensive care.

Sometimes deep down, you just know. And you don’t know how you do, but it’s as if it’s your destiny pointing you in the right direction.

Sometimes though it’s easy to ignore the path that is in front of you – and what you originally think you want isn’t where you end up.

But life has a funny way of working out in the end, and whilst it’s hard to see where we’ll be in a few years, let’s celebrate each and every moment of the here and now.

What is the best piece of advice that you have been given and what have you learnt from it?

What’s Your Vision?

At the start of this year, I created a vision board of things I wanted to achieve and I set goals for each month to ensure that I stay on track to get to where I want to.

One of the key things for me is getting a balance between working and being a mum to J. It’s not easy and at the moment, I am like the proverbial stretchy man but I know that I’ll get there.

I said that I wanted to book 12 more weddings in by the end of this month – and I’m pleased to say I’m almost there – having secured eight already. I also wanted to be able to take the family to Disney World Florida and this is also now about to become a reality.

You see the more you set clear intentions, the more likely they are to happen, and the harder you will work to ensure they become a reality.

So what things would you like to achieve this year? Let’s see if we can help and support each other to get to where we would all like to be.

Here is my vision board so that you can see how I set about everything… x

Beating the Overwhelm…

Sometimes things can feel as if they’re getting too much. I know that I certainly feel this way at the moment but on my way into work this morning I made a conscious decision and I hope that it will in somehow help you if you’re reading this now.

I started to run through a list of everything that I’m grateful for.

My gorgeous little boy, hubby, the fact that we will be going on a holiday of a lifetime soon, all of these amazing things.

And yes I am stressed at the moment. There is a lot going on all at once and demands are being placed on me, which I feel to a certain extent are unfair.

But by refocusing on the good things, the positive things, it has helped to calm me, to re-centre my focus and it will mean that I’m more productive, more present for those I love and more importantly am more in tune with myself in terms of what I need.

Give it a go – it works for me, and I really hope that it works for you.

The sun is shining, warm weather is around the corner. Today is going to be your day. Sending lots of positive thoughts your way… x

Ps Come over and join us in the Working Mum Association Group we’d love to have you with us

Space and Permission…

Giving yourself space and permission…

I don’t know about you but sometimes being a mum, let alone one that works, can feel like it’s all consuming.

It’s hard when a little person is so reliant on you for their every need. I’m sure it gets easier as they get older, although I’m sure that their needs just change over time.

But in amongst everything associated with being a mum, and a busy working mum at that, don’t forget to give yourself a chance. Moments to yourself, that you carve out in any given day, that are just for you.

Because by doing this, you are remembering who you are. Who you used to be and what makes you happy.

I must have read it several times over how a happy mum equals a happy family.

And giving yourself permission to think about what you really want from your life it’s the first step in making you and those you love the most, truly happy.

Taking that step to think about what your life could look like and then knowing that you really can make it happen, means that you are on the initial stages of an incredibly exciting journey.

It’s so easy to sleepwalk through week after week, attending meeting after meeting, and then wondering where the time has gone.

So please if you do one thing this week, take half an hour out on your journey to or from work, or when you’re able to just sit and write it down. What do you want from life?

I did this back in 2015 and it was a real turning point for me.

Positive Surroundings…

As we round off another working week, I’ve been reminded yet again about the importance to surround yourself with like-minded people.

I’ve always been an optimist and see the glass as half full. But if you have people around you constantly looking at that proverbial glass as if it’s always empty, you are already facing a bit of a struggle.

I’m fortunate enough to be a member of a few online communities, which I’m glad to say are wholly positive. Lots of connections are being made with other like-minded women. Some of them mums, the majority of them all striving to make a better life for themselves and their nearest and dearest.

Sometimes this journey can be tough. But as I have said before, how you look at things can make a massive difference to your whole experience.

If you view the world as gloomy like Eyeore then it will no doubt feel this way. However, if you think of it like a balloon bobbing along in the breeze, it will start to make you feel as uplifted too.

I just wanted to share this with you today, because sometimes it’s hard if you have people in your life who don’t quite get where you’re coming from, or why you find some days harder than others as a working mum.

Hopefully through the Working Mum Association and our lovely Facebook group, which is growing rapidly, you will find a sense of community. And you will be able to make connections with like-minded mums who value what you have to say, and will help lift you up when everything feels like it’s too much.

Thank you for reading this and for being part of this amazing movement for us to support, encourage and inspire each other on our journeys as working mums.